YOU HAVE THE POWER TO CONTROL HOW PEOPLE TREAT YOU . You can make people like you or hate you; respect you or criticize you; support you or chop you down.
You can also get people to trust you, support you and help you succeed.
The way you do this is outlined by L. Ron Hubbard in The Way to Happiness.
“Try to Treat Others as You Would Want Them to Treat You”
“Just figure out how you would want people to treat you.
“You would possibly, first of all, want to be treated justly: you wouldn't want people lying about you or falsely or harshly condemning you. Right?
“You would probably want your friends and companions to be loyal: you would not want them to betray you.”
“You would want people to be fair in their dealings with you.
“You would want them to be honest with you and not cheat you. Correct?
“You might want to be treated kindly and without cruelty.”
“You would probably prefer to be given respect, not insulted.
“Possibly you would want others to be polite to you and also treat you with dignity. Right?
“You might like people to admire you.
“When you did something for them you would possibly like people to appreciate you. Correct?
“You would probably like others to be friendly toward you.
“From some you might want love.
“And above all, you wouldn't want these people just pretending these things, you would want them to be quite real in their attitudes and to be acting with integrity*.”
“It requires no great stretch of imagination for one to recognize that if he were to be treated that way regularly by others around him, his life would exist on a pleasant level.” — L. Ron Hubbard (*integrity: honesty, truthfulness)
THREE STEPS TO GET PEOPLE TO TREAT YOU THE WAY YOU WANT TO BE TREATED
1. Make a list of each person you wish to influence: spouse, children, parents, employees, bosses, co-workers, colleagues and so on.
2. Next to each name, write how you want him or her to treat you.
3. Then write how you will treat that person, in that same way.
In some cases, you might be amazed at how quickly this works. In other cases, you may need to persist for a long time, so don't give up!
Have a Pleasant Moment.
just4rel...
Thursday, January 28, 2010
Wednesday, January 20, 2010
YOUR UNLIMITED POTENTIAL
Question: What does the word "potentiality" mean?
Answer: The capacity for growth or improvement; a possibility; a power.
For example, if you sit on a box of dynamite, you are sitting on a potentiality. The dynamite isn't exploding . . . but it could.
Fact: You ARE sitting on a box of dynamite, and it's big!
"Your potentialities are a great deal better than anyone ever permitted you to believe." -- L. Ron Hubbard
Right now, you are capable of making improvements in your career, your finances and your life that are more significant and satisfying than anything you have ever done. You can potentially shatter your past achievement records, eliminate your worst problems and feel absolutely great. Everything you have done in the past becomes minor compared to what you can do in the future.
Most people have the wrong idea about success. They believe "you can only do so much," or "you just need to keep on trying" or "success takes time." Such thinking slows you down and limits your lifetime achievements.
Instead, simply take a new view of yourself, your habits and your thinking. And then ACT!
To make a significant, instant improvement in your career and life, you must jump out of your rut. Overcome your addiction to safe, conservative plans. Break out of old patterns and find new attitudes.
Don't settle for small improvements. Do something bold and exciting. Find a destination you passionately want and make it happen!
YOUR DESTINATION
When you plan a vacation, you don't start by examining the route. You start by choosing a destination. The route becomes obvious when you focus on the goal. And the bigger the destination, the more exciting the trip.
What is the most exciting destination you can imagine for yourself? What objective makes your heart pound? What goal lifts your mood?
These are your potentialities. These are your dreams. These are what you can believe in!
To get there, start by concentrating on the end result. Put yourself in the picture of your dreams. Create a vision of you reaching your goals.
Then act. Take a small step, a large step or a leap. Any progress will lead to more progress, as long as you remember to think of your ultimate success.
The time to start is now. Focus on a goal and light the fuse!
A Wonderful Day.
Just4real...
Answer: The capacity for growth or improvement; a possibility; a power.
For example, if you sit on a box of dynamite, you are sitting on a potentiality. The dynamite isn't exploding . . . but it could.
Fact: You ARE sitting on a box of dynamite, and it's big!
"Your potentialities are a great deal better than anyone ever permitted you to believe." -- L. Ron Hubbard
Right now, you are capable of making improvements in your career, your finances and your life that are more significant and satisfying than anything you have ever done. You can potentially shatter your past achievement records, eliminate your worst problems and feel absolutely great. Everything you have done in the past becomes minor compared to what you can do in the future.
Most people have the wrong idea about success. They believe "you can only do so much," or "you just need to keep on trying" or "success takes time." Such thinking slows you down and limits your lifetime achievements.
Instead, simply take a new view of yourself, your habits and your thinking. And then ACT!
To make a significant, instant improvement in your career and life, you must jump out of your rut. Overcome your addiction to safe, conservative plans. Break out of old patterns and find new attitudes.
Don't settle for small improvements. Do something bold and exciting. Find a destination you passionately want and make it happen!
YOUR DESTINATION
When you plan a vacation, you don't start by examining the route. You start by choosing a destination. The route becomes obvious when you focus on the goal. And the bigger the destination, the more exciting the trip.
What is the most exciting destination you can imagine for yourself? What objective makes your heart pound? What goal lifts your mood?
These are your potentialities. These are your dreams. These are what you can believe in!
To get there, start by concentrating on the end result. Put yourself in the picture of your dreams. Create a vision of you reaching your goals.
Then act. Take a small step, a large step or a leap. Any progress will lead to more progress, as long as you remember to think of your ultimate success.
The time to start is now. Focus on a goal and light the fuse!
A Wonderful Day.
Just4real...
How Are You Predicting Your Success This Year?
Chris wondered, “What's going to happen to me? What does the future hold?”
He remembers his father saying, “All you can do is hope for the best.” So Chris hopes and hopes. “I hope I get paid more for my work. I hope people will be more grateful to me. I hope my investments will skyrocket so I can retire. I also hope I win the lottery.”
After a year of hoping, nothing changes for Chris.
While watching television, Chris hears someone say, “We must remember the past to prevent things from happening in the future.”
So he reviews his mistakes and vows not to repeat them. Another year passes, but still no improvement.
Chris searches the Internet and learns about fate. “The future is predetermined. It's out of your hands.”
He concludes, “No one knows what'll happen."
Like many people in this world, Chris is a spectator. He is waiting for something to happen.
TIME MACHINE
If you could look through a time machine and see 100 years into the future, what would you see?
If you see a space-age society with incredible computers, robots and space travel, you know the scientists, engineers and technology inventors are the most ambitious.
If society is wealthy and prosperity is available to all, you know the entrepreneurs, managers and business owners are the most ambitious.
If you see a world at war and people are getting killed every day, you know arms dealers, terrorists and war-loving politicians are the most ambitious.
To see the future of our world, just look for the most persistent, passionate and intense people and you see the future.
What fires up this powerful ambition in people? How can you make your own future?
ARE YOU A SPECTATOR OR A PLAYER?
“If a man can dream, if a man can have goals, he can be happy and he can be alive. If he has no goals he doesn't even have a future.”-- L. Ron Hubbard
To make your future, try asking yourself, “What should I make happen? What shall I accomplish? What do I WANT in my future?”
The future is like an empty field. No one is playing on it yet. You can run out there and start the game.
While people like Chris are sitting in the stands, you can go ahead and play the game of life.
THE GAME IS YOURS
Write one of your most important goals for 2010.
Ask yourself, “What future do I predict if I just sit on my hands and wait for this goal to be reached?”
Next, write down one step you can take, right now, toward this important goal.
Ask yourself, “If I do this one step and then another and then another, what is my future?”
And there you have it! You are predicting your future.
He remembers his father saying, “All you can do is hope for the best.” So Chris hopes and hopes. “I hope I get paid more for my work. I hope people will be more grateful to me. I hope my investments will skyrocket so I can retire. I also hope I win the lottery.”
After a year of hoping, nothing changes for Chris.
While watching television, Chris hears someone say, “We must remember the past to prevent things from happening in the future.”
So he reviews his mistakes and vows not to repeat them. Another year passes, but still no improvement.
Chris searches the Internet and learns about fate. “The future is predetermined. It's out of your hands.”
He concludes, “No one knows what'll happen."
Like many people in this world, Chris is a spectator. He is waiting for something to happen.
TIME MACHINE
If you could look through a time machine and see 100 years into the future, what would you see?
If you see a space-age society with incredible computers, robots and space travel, you know the scientists, engineers and technology inventors are the most ambitious.
If society is wealthy and prosperity is available to all, you know the entrepreneurs, managers and business owners are the most ambitious.
If you see a world at war and people are getting killed every day, you know arms dealers, terrorists and war-loving politicians are the most ambitious.
To see the future of our world, just look for the most persistent, passionate and intense people and you see the future.
What fires up this powerful ambition in people? How can you make your own future?
ARE YOU A SPECTATOR OR A PLAYER?
“If a man can dream, if a man can have goals, he can be happy and he can be alive. If he has no goals he doesn't even have a future.”-- L. Ron Hubbard
To make your future, try asking yourself, “What should I make happen? What shall I accomplish? What do I WANT in my future?”
The future is like an empty field. No one is playing on it yet. You can run out there and start the game.
While people like Chris are sitting in the stands, you can go ahead and play the game of life.
THE GAME IS YOURS
Write one of your most important goals for 2010.
Ask yourself, “What future do I predict if I just sit on my hands and wait for this goal to be reached?”
Next, write down one step you can take, right now, toward this important goal.
Ask yourself, “If I do this one step and then another and then another, what is my future?”
And there you have it! You are predicting your future.
HOW DO YOU HANDLE LIFE'S ROADBLOCKS?
When you are stopped while trying to accomplish something, how do you respond? How do you handle the frustration?
For example, you want to be a professional piano player. You take piano lessons, practice for two hours every day and learn as many songs as possible. You play at a friend's wedding and feel ignored. You audition to play at your church services, but do not get selected. Your mother even says, “Maybe you should take up water colors.” What do you do?
Maybe you cry and feel sorry for yourself. “Boo-hoo! I feel so bad!”
Perhaps you blame others. “My teachers were so bad that I'll never succeed.”
Or maybe you blame yourself. “I'm such an idiot! Stupid! Stupid! Stupid!”
Many people like to drown their sorrows. “To heck with it! I'm getting drunk.”
Some prefer depression or apathy. “Life isn't worth living. I'm going to watch TV all day.”
Finding excuses is popular. “My fingers were sore.” “The music is too old.” “People just don't appreciate fine piano playing.”
And of course, many people just give up. “I'm not going to play the stupid piano. In fact, piano players are losers.”
How do you handle life's roadblocks?
INTENTION
“Intention is like a landmark.”
“If you were traveling through unfamiliar country toward a snow-capped mountain, you would find that you sometimes took a wrong turn, but as long as you could see the mountain, you would make progress toward it. Sometimes obstacles would get in your way. Sometimes they would even hide the mountain from you. But there is one thing that would not happen. You would not forget to look for the mountain. You would know that you could not reach the mountain by forgetting its existence. You would laugh at the idea of forgetting to look for the mountain.” -- L. Ron Hubbard
For example, despite the obstacles, you would not lose sight of your goal to be a piano player. You would ignore the losses and stay focused on the goal. “I will become a fabulous pianist! I'm going to take 200 lessons and practice for four hours a day until I make it.”
Luckily, using intention is not difficult. Constantly looking for the mountain is easy. You just look! Your feet then follow your eyes.
As another example, you own a restaurant and have the goal of $10,000 profit per month. You figure out you will need 200 happy, satisfied customers per day to reach your goal. You keep this mountain in mind at all times.
One day, your chef calls and says, “I got a better job in New York and I'm leaving today. Good luck to you.”
You realize you'll be cooking a lot of food today and feel like closing the doors and going to a movie instead. Yet you look for your mountain. You see 200 happy customers. You intend to reach the goal.
You suddenly remember your mother is a great cook. She has been offering to help out, so you ask her to take over the kitchen for a few days. She agrees and doesn't even want any pay!
You run an ad and hire a new chef by the weekend. You continue hiking up the mountain.
RECOMMENDATIONS
1. Write down your top three goals. If you do not have three top goals, write down three big things you really want.
2. Put these goals where you will see them several times each day. For example, a note taped on your car's dashboard. A note on your computer screen. A postcard in your shirt pocket. A sticker on the inside of your wallet. Anywhere you will constantly see the goal.
3. Every time you get stopped by life's roadblocks, do not get sad. Do not give up. Do not look for excuses. Instead, just look at your goals. Never forget to look for the mountain.
If you constantly look for the mountain, you will persist. You will work to reach it, day and night. You will find the time and energy it takes to reach the top.
No obstacle will be big enough nor strong enough to stop you.
Have a pleasant day. We shall meet at the top.
from me Just4real....
For example, you want to be a professional piano player. You take piano lessons, practice for two hours every day and learn as many songs as possible. You play at a friend's wedding and feel ignored. You audition to play at your church services, but do not get selected. Your mother even says, “Maybe you should take up water colors.” What do you do?
Maybe you cry and feel sorry for yourself. “Boo-hoo! I feel so bad!”
Perhaps you blame others. “My teachers were so bad that I'll never succeed.”
Or maybe you blame yourself. “I'm such an idiot! Stupid! Stupid! Stupid!”
Many people like to drown their sorrows. “To heck with it! I'm getting drunk.”
Some prefer depression or apathy. “Life isn't worth living. I'm going to watch TV all day.”
Finding excuses is popular. “My fingers were sore.” “The music is too old.” “People just don't appreciate fine piano playing.”
And of course, many people just give up. “I'm not going to play the stupid piano. In fact, piano players are losers.”
How do you handle life's roadblocks?
INTENTION
“Intention is like a landmark.”
“If you were traveling through unfamiliar country toward a snow-capped mountain, you would find that you sometimes took a wrong turn, but as long as you could see the mountain, you would make progress toward it. Sometimes obstacles would get in your way. Sometimes they would even hide the mountain from you. But there is one thing that would not happen. You would not forget to look for the mountain. You would know that you could not reach the mountain by forgetting its existence. You would laugh at the idea of forgetting to look for the mountain.” -- L. Ron Hubbard
For example, despite the obstacles, you would not lose sight of your goal to be a piano player. You would ignore the losses and stay focused on the goal. “I will become a fabulous pianist! I'm going to take 200 lessons and practice for four hours a day until I make it.”
Luckily, using intention is not difficult. Constantly looking for the mountain is easy. You just look! Your feet then follow your eyes.
As another example, you own a restaurant and have the goal of $10,000 profit per month. You figure out you will need 200 happy, satisfied customers per day to reach your goal. You keep this mountain in mind at all times.
One day, your chef calls and says, “I got a better job in New York and I'm leaving today. Good luck to you.”
You realize you'll be cooking a lot of food today and feel like closing the doors and going to a movie instead. Yet you look for your mountain. You see 200 happy customers. You intend to reach the goal.
You suddenly remember your mother is a great cook. She has been offering to help out, so you ask her to take over the kitchen for a few days. She agrees and doesn't even want any pay!
You run an ad and hire a new chef by the weekend. You continue hiking up the mountain.
RECOMMENDATIONS
1. Write down your top three goals. If you do not have three top goals, write down three big things you really want.
2. Put these goals where you will see them several times each day. For example, a note taped on your car's dashboard. A note on your computer screen. A postcard in your shirt pocket. A sticker on the inside of your wallet. Anywhere you will constantly see the goal.
3. Every time you get stopped by life's roadblocks, do not get sad. Do not give up. Do not look for excuses. Instead, just look at your goals. Never forget to look for the mountain.
If you constantly look for the mountain, you will persist. You will work to reach it, day and night. You will find the time and energy it takes to reach the top.
No obstacle will be big enough nor strong enough to stop you.
Have a pleasant day. We shall meet at the top.
from me Just4real....
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